Many men born here in America have been brought up in homes without a father and have been raised by their mother. For the father's of these men, their own father's weren't there for them either. So for the man who helped create a young boy, he himself, left unchecked, will most likely be just like his own father. This is a continuous cycle that goes on and on with so many fatherless families.
The Father
When
many men were younger during childhood, many either had half of a
father around, or went without having one at all. Having half of a
father means, you have a man in the house who helped create a young
boy, and that man fails to take full responsibility of the situation
that he helped create. So the father usually chooses to do what he
wants to do regardless of what's needed around the house and along
with his family, considering if he lives with his family. Some
choose to drink, take drugs, allow their time to be dominated by
being at their place of employment, run around with different women,
and various other things that keeps him away from home. Meanwhile
the mother and son are at home doing their best to get along with
each other and live the best way that they can.
For
many fathers, growing up, they themselves never got the chance to see
a positive, productive male father figure in their life. So this
doesn't allow them to even have the desire to be a man and stand up
to their responsibility that they helped create. As said earlier, if
the man doesn't figure this out for himself, then he will continue to
play a part in this vicious cycle of fatherless families.
The Mother
The
mother for many young males are loving, open hearted and truly want
the best for their young son. They want him to grow up to be as
strong of a man as possible. There are also mothers who are still
obsessed with the father of the boy regardless of how the father
treats her and her son. Then sometimes completely neglecting her
responsibilities as a mother for her son. For now, I'll focus on the
1st mother mentioned who takes care of her
responsibilities.
The
open hearted mother does everything she can to care for her son. She
makes sure that they spend lots of time together to create a strong
bond between each other. She teaches him everything she can about
life. Meanwhile, this is all good and wise, however, you have to
keep in mind that this is a MALE that she is dealing with, and he is
only around and being taught by a female. Whenever a young male is
being fully raised and taught by a female, he is absorbing
everything feminine. Especially feminine energy and also a feminine
mindset. If a mother wants her young male to grow up as a strong
minded BALANCED male, then it is very vital that she gets him around
strong minded balanced males AND females.
Time
and time again, young fatherless males are raised and taught only by
a female. Many woman fail to get their young sons around other
strong minded men that can give her son some kind of positive and
productive images to view. Keep in mind, the more productive and
positive images young people see, the more likely they themselves
will be developed and have the desire to be the same(read my
subconscious mind article). If a young boy continues to be taught
and raised by a woman, it will be very difficult for him to be
transformed into a strong minded and balanced man. Think about it.
This
is the #1 reason why there aren't strong minded and balanced men in
the world currently. The upbringing of a young male is VERY vital
for them to become strong, positive and productive adults. If a
parent/s fail to provide this to their young male, then chances are,
they won't end up much different from their father.
The Son
Every
male once he gets to a certain age, he starts to develop his own mind
and wants to start making his own choices. This is the prime time to
notice what he has absorbed from his childhood. Depending on the
people, places and things that he has been around, he will start to
behave in similar ways of those things. Even his dress will reflect
the people, places and things that he chooses to surround himself by.
Overall,
once a young male gets into his teens and 20's, he still has a choice
on what type of man he wants to be. He has the choice to be just
like his father(weak minded and useless, depending on how the father
is), or better than his father in as many ways possible. Nothing for
the young male is set in stone. What's most important is that he
focuses on developing his mind to have the mindset that he wants.
My Father
Experience
This
is similar to my own experience with my father. My father fully left
out of my life when I was 16. While sitting down in my room alone, I
received some spiritual information that he wasn't going to come back
into my life. The information came through like this: “Your father
isn't coming back into your life. Don't cry. Just learn what you
have to learn and then move on with your life.” I sat for a few
minutes and said to myself out loud “huh, he's not coming back into
my life.” So from then on I focused my time and energy learning
what I felt I had to learn about being a man.
Early
on at some point, I knew that me being around my mother and learning
from her wasn't going to help develop myself into a strong minded
man. She herself wasn't strong minded, so I certainly wasn't going
to learn being strong minded from her. What I did was I studied,
studied and studied!
I
read as many books as possible that I felt I could learn anything
from, even if it would be just one major thing about being a strong
minded man. I also decided to sit back and observe various men I
both knew and didn't know. This allowed me to see various sides of a
man. I looked at men in various movies, looked at their faults,
failures and successes. Doing all of this allowed me to get my own
perceptive about what a man is and his responsibilities in life and
especially dealing with women.
If
a young male is to have his own perception on life as a man, it is
very important for him to study and observe what it is to be one. He
is less likely to receive and perceive this type of image and
information by being fully raised and taught by a woman.
In Summary
Yes
it is very good and wise that a mother wants to and actually takes
very good care of her son, however it is also vital for her to get
him around other men who offer him a positive and productive image to
look at. Balance is the key! If a mother fails to do this, IF left
unchecked by himself, then her son is more than likely to end up like
most weak minded men in this world. Men who are ego based, disempowered and who abuse women in various ways. This is something
for every parent and potential parent to consider.
This
article has been written by your neighborhood spiritual teacher Neo
Askuwheteau
Email:
NeoOneness@Gmail.com
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