Most parents mean well for their child/children. Most only want the best for them and they will do whatever they can to provide this for them. However, there are parents who are children raising their children. In this article, I will point out to you the reasons for me saying this. Some might surprise you.
This information came from my experience dealing with my own parents. Once I resolved my own childhood issues, I then were able to perceive my parents. Like I remember a large portion of my life living with my mother, she would say to me "You're so selfish, you're just like you're father." The whole time she would never teach me to give. Then, years later when I moved out on my own and then spent time with her, turns out now SHE'S the one who's selfish!
Regarding my father, it was always extremely easy for him to get angry. We didn't have to do or say much to get him angry. It was like we had to walk on egg shells while being around him without making him angry. When I talk to him now, I see that he wasn't prepared mentally and emotionally for marriage or having his own children.
Whenever a person is born, their minds automatically starts to record everything and everyone around them. All of the events that they go to, everything that the people around them do and especially say. The things that the young child sees and hears starts to become beliefs into their own belief system. The habits of their parents are seen and heard by the child and the child begins to take on those habits themselves.
Unless the child when they get older realizes and then changes these habits that they've picked up from their parents, then these habits will be continued by the person and they will pop up into their future relationships with other people. Habits like: not respecting people when they are talking, not cleaning up after themselves, not caring about what they say to another person, and overall being irresponsible.
There are good habits that a child can pick up from their parent/s also! Habits like: Respecting other people while they are speaking, appreciating other people's gifts whenever given to them, caring for and sharing with other people and so forth.
Parents themselves have to be mentally, emotionally and physically adults. This is if they want to have their child to be a strong minded, responsible and caring adult. If the parents aren't already this before they have a child/children, then it will be very difficult to do accomplish this.
Many parents for many centuries have been passing on many of the same insecurities of their own parents and also have created new ones for themselves. Then the cycle continues to their own children. Then unless someone realizes what's been going on, it will then continue. Someone at some point has to realize this cycle and then help put a stop to it.
The insecurities that many parents currently have, they frequently project them onto their children in various situations. Example: When a young child says something that a parent doesn't like, whether it was intentionally or unintentionally said, the parent just REACTS with anger without 1st thinking. This is an insecurity somewhere inside the parent that popped up and made the parent react without thinking. Whenever a person just reacts negatively to a person and/or situation, that person has some sort of insecurity within themselves that needs to be dealt with. So instead of being angry at yourself, use that opportunity for growth!
If you don't have an insecurity/negative belief about a person, place and/or thing, then there won't be a need to just REACT negatively towards it. Think about it.
Everyone can use these moments to recognize that we have something that needs to be resolved. So make a time for yourself afterwards to sit alone in silence somewhere. Then ask yourself, "what was it that caused me to react that way that I did?" Sit and wait to see what kind of thoughts, visions and/or feelings you get. If you don't perceive anything that sitting, then do another one at another time.
Regardless, as long as you asked, the answer will come in some shape or form. You have to remain open to resolving the insecurity. Then you will receive the answer much faster and know what to do afterwards.
Parents have to remember and realize that their child/children are at a much lower mental and emotional level than they are. They haven't experienced the world as much as them. The child MOST of the time can use more help with life than the parent. There isn't a need to completely yell and lash out on a child.
Take a deep breath, relax yourself, and then ask out loud if you can(or whisper if needed), "what is the best thing for me to do and/or say in this situation?" Then your spiritual self will provide you the answer. AS LONG AS YOU STAY OPEN AND RELAXED!
I personally advise people who are considering having their own child/children to really take the time to study and comprehend what it means to have a child. What the responsibility it is to have their own. I also recommend that the potential parent/s make sure that they have dealt with as many of their own insecurities before having their own child/children. This will make this whole process much smoother for everyone! How many times have you seen parents lash out mindlessly at their child for doing something/saying something simple that the parent/s didn't like? How many times have you seen a parent act childishly when dealing with their child. Think about it.
Thank you very much for reading and I hope this helped you in any kind of way.
This is coming from your neighborhood Spiritual Teacher/Motivator Neo Askuwheteau.
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